The struggles of being a glass child; And how you can cope.
Hello Everyone, today I will be discussing my experiences growing up as a glass child and the
effects it has had on my life.
What is a glass child?
So, what exactly is a glass child? The term ‘glass child’ refers to a sibling who often feels neglected or invisible due to the considerable attention given to a sibling or family member with special needs, chronic illness, or disability. Those who identify with this experience may feel as though they are ‘transparent’ or that their own needs are overlooked, as the family’s focus is predominantly on the individual with additional needs.
Personally, during my childhood my mother battled substance abuse, while my brother faced challenges related to ADHD, bipolar disorder, and depression. I did not encounter similar struggles, which made it difficult for me to connect with my family, and those around me. This led me to believe that my mother’s and brother’s issues were far more significant than my own, regardless of what they were, causing me to feel as though my feelings and thoughts were disregarded.
This experience not only undermines one’s self-perception but can also create intense feelings of worthlessness. Growing up and feeling like a glass child can be deeply impactful to one’s mental health. With the thoughts and ideas that you aren’t enough, you begin to believe it.
Personally, I fell into a deep depression never feeling like I was going to get better. It had gotten to the point where I was unable to do the things I loved, and never wanted to speak up to anyone in fear that they just wouldn’t care or wouldn’t listen.
My Coping Mechanisms
After years of being a glass child feeling invisible, I began to learn that there are effective coping mechanisms that can help you understand that you are not alone. I started a journal, kind of like a diary. Each time I began getting an overwhelming amount of stress and anxiety due to being a glass child, I would write a few pages, re-read, then rip it up and throw it out. This helped me calm down as I could write anything I wanted, knowing it would be safe and not go anywhere.
Not only that, I started pulling my dad and other extended family members aside and letting them know how I was feeling. After all this time of being nervous and scared, It was for no reason. Everyone was there for me with open arms and helped me realize that no matter what I am going through, I am not alone. And to those reading, you are not alone either.
As this progresses, you can always seek support from local groups, such as Positive Directions in Westport, CT Support Group, or any places relative to your location. It is essential to prioritize your own well-being. It is important to remind yourself daily of your strength and capabilities. And remember, if you are going through this and feel as though you are helpless, just know that you are not alone and there are people out there who can help you. ~ Avery
