Hey guys. I’m really struggling with something right now in my personal life and I felt like this was a good place to talk about it.
My best friend at school is really struggling in the depths of his addiction to drugs and alcohol right now. It’s really, really hard for me to sit back and watch one of the people I love and respect, basically destroy himself. I’m not trying to paint myself as the victim in this situation, since obviously he is the one struggling with addiction. Sometimes I feel like I’m working harder on his recovery than he is – I feel like I care more about him getting sober and getting on the right track than he does.
It’s really hard too, because he’s my best friend at school and obviously I want to lean on him for support, but most of the time I can’t because I’m sober and he’s not. It’s frustrating that our friendship is on such an uneven playing field, since I’m his main support at college, but he can’t return the favor. Some really awful things have happened while he’s been high / drunk, but I don’t know what event will make him realize that he needs to take his recovery more seriously.
I don’t really know what to do. Thoughts?
